Divorcing people frequently ask me when they will stop feeling like they have failed—their children, their families, their spouse, themselves. Divorce happens—sometimes even when we have done our very best and tried everything we know. The loss hurts and is heartbreaking. But you can survive it and come through on the other side. Here are 3 things to consider:
Be Informed
At this stage, you often don’t know what you don’t know. Knowledge helps us feel more in control so seek out reliable information. Be wary of well-meaning but often ill-informed friends and family. There are multiple options about how you and your spouse can manage this transition. An inexpensive, information-filled opportunity is for you (and your spouse) to attend a DIVORCE OPTIONS® Workshop. Go to the Sacramento Collaborative Practice Group website: www.divorceoption.com and select the “Attend DIVORCE OPTIONS®” tab.
Don’t Go It Alone
There will be times that you will need additional support. Consider identifying support groups in your area or seeking out a licensed professional therapist.
Take Care of Yourself
One of people’s biggest concerns relates to the impact of divorce on their children. We know that the best predictor of how your children will adapt is how well you and your spouse work with each other and manage your conflict. Consider attending a Co-Parenting Class. Be sure you are getting adequate rest, exercise, nutrition and support.
By: R. Renee Steele, Ph.D.
916.985.0321 Folsom, CA.
Articles and resources from the SCDG team on collaborative divorce, mediation, and family law in Sacramento.