When people get married, they typically don’t expect to get divorced. They don’t expect that they’ll fall out of love with their spouse or become so bitter and angry that they can’t even be in the same room as the other person. And they don’t expect that they might do or say things they would later regret.
During a divorce, good people can make some bad decisions. However, the fact that you and/or your ex may be reacting in negative or hurtful ways doesn’t mean you can’t try to work together to reach a fair and amicable end to your marriage.
Collaborative divorce is something that people all across California have pursued in recent years. Essentially, it allows two people to work together with open communication, compromise and negotiation in an effort to resolve some or all aspects of their divorce.
You might be thinking that collaboration is just not in the cards for your situation because you and your ex aren’t on the best of terms, or because you have both said and done some hurtful things. However, collaborative divorce is not just you and your ex trying to resolve complex issues on your own.
With the help of attorneys and professionals like those in the Sacramento Collaborative Practice Group who are experienced in collaborative law, mental health professionals, financial specialists and other supportive advisors, you can navigate the process in a positive manner and focus on the future rather than dwelling on past mistakes and placing blame on the other party
Again, you do not have to be on great terms with your ex to pursue collaboration; you both just need to be willing to try and work toward the same goal. Divorce is not easy, and people experience strong, negative emotions during this troubling time. However, with guidance, support and a little perspective, you can try to make the best of a very difficult situation.
By Hal Bartholomew, Attorney – Sacramento, CA.
Collaborative Divorce – a new process in which a divorcing couple, together with trained professional, work as a team to resolve disputes respectfully, without going to court.